There seems to be a superiority complex floating around. I always hear certain parts of society say that being gay, bisexual, kinky, transgender, Queer or even polyamorous (the list really goes on) is not normal or causes problems for society. I’ve never understood how someone’s sexual preference or relationship preference can be a problem for society. Those kinds of comments make me roll my eyes in its ignorance and just in frustration. Someone like myself, fight against this way of thinking. I advocate for equality and forward thinking all around in any way I can. So, when I hear something like this on a TV show about Polyamory that is stirring the pot in both the mono world and poly world…I get sick and frustrated as hell….
“I have a little bit stronger feelings about monogamy. I think its actually a problem for society as it is right now. I think it causes misery and unneeded suffering. Polyamory is an evolved way of thinking.”
-Tahl from Polyamory: Married and Dating on Showtime
Monogamy, no matter how one might be in it, is NOT a problem in society. Just as Polyamory is not a problem in society. You are supposed to be someone who is a “spokesman” for polyamory. You are in the spotlight….and saying something like this frustrates me and makes me want to shake you. Don’t you realize this kind of comment is exactly what we are fighting against with society? It’s hypocritical to say such a thing! There is a place for monogamy and polyamory in this world, much less many other types of relationship types. Its what works for you in your life and what makes you happy that makes it all work. It’s also the people we are with that make it work. Monogamy is not an issue, and neither is polyamory. However, what does work for you is polyamory…and you can’t see yourself in any other type of relationship. Its who you are…but to say that is completely different than saying what you did. I cannot and will not agree that that choice of wording was at all smart or logical.
Also, as someone on my twitter said yesterday, I think that as polyamorous, much less as human beings, we should strike the phrase “more evolved” from our vocabulary. That line of thinking is not evolved, much less helpful to our cause. That kind of thinking is exactly why we are in this type of situation in society. Polyamory is not a superior or more evolved way of thinking. With society the way it is today, is it more opened minded? Yes. Equal rights for African Americans back in the 50’s and 60’s was more open minded too. This world will forever be fighting for equal rights for something…and there will always be something that is more open minded than typical society standards. That’s why we have to be open minded to what society sees as “normal” or “non-alternative”, so that we have the ability to educate those who don’t understand. So that we have the ability to lead those in the dark about our lives into the light. Having a thought process of thinking you are more evolved or that what others do is a problem is only going to back track our efforts and achievements. It’s going to make others not want to listen to us because we are not being fair or logical and we are talking down about what they believe. And that is no way to educate and get people to understand our needs and wants.
Bottom line is…we aren’t just fighting for equal rights for all, we are fighting against this way of thinking period. The superiority complex does nothing for our cause or any person’s cause. Just remember…..
Posted on August 26, 2012, in Polyamory, Rant and tagged All Love is Divine, Individuality, Monogamy, Polyamory, Polyamory: Married & Dating, Polyfidelity, Quotes, Relationships, Society. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.