All I expect…
As I have said many times in this blog, I don’t ask for much from the people I am involved with. I ask for communication, honesty, openness, respect and trust at all times. Hell, that’s the only rules that Laz and I have between us. I tell everyone I even just talk to that much about me. I don’t expect anything but that from anyone. When I begin to get serious with someone, I feel like they are important enough to be informed on other people I am interested in, getting to know or when I start dating someone. Even if I am not sure where something might be going, I still let someone I am involved with to that degree know what I am feeling with this potential because I don’t want them to be hit up beside the head with anything. To me it shows respect, and that I feel they are important enough to be kept in the loop or vis versa. This doesn’t mean I have to know every detail from them, but be informed on the status and where they stand. That’s not asking a lot right?
To me, if it’s important enough to label the relationship, even for a trial basis to figure things out (or even if its important enough to figure things out), it’s worth mentioning to someone you are involved with in a serious relationship. It’s all apart of the communication, respect, openness and honesty.
I want to make it clear that I am perfectly fine with the people I am involved with dating others, being in serious relationships with others or even just fucking others. I don’t care…I just want them to be happy. It makes me happy. But what I do need to know is that there is someone else. That’s all. I don’t need details, I don’t have to approve (that’s not my place at all)…I just need to know they exist. It’s about being aware and also knowing that if you are going to say I am important enough, back that up with actions too…not just words.
The reason I bring this up is because no matter how Polyamory works for you and no matter what kind of rules or boundaries you might have with your relationships, this should be the least you expect from anyone in this life.
Posted on July 24, 2012, in Personal, Polyamory and tagged Communication, Expectations, Open Relationship, Personal Experience, Personal Note, Polyamory, Priorities, Real Life, Relationships, Trust. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.