One Word at a Time…
In the past week I have had people ask me about how I view my choices of being so open in not only who I am, but what I believe when it comes to being Poly, kinky and bisexual. I’ve had two actually and an event that made this subject come to light here. These questions I have answered with no hesitation, which I couldn’t honestly say that years ago. So let me put this out there and make it very clear if you question how I deal with my life as a whole and how I present myself to the world.
I do not hide behind my words. I act out my words. I do not hide behind this computer screen for all to wonder who I am and if I truly believe what I say here. I hide no where and from no one. I am very open to everyone in my life about who I am and what kind of life I lead. I do it respectfully and yes sometimes it’s best to leave your personal life personal, but I honestly wouldn’t give it a second thought if someone I worked with found out about this place, this person I truly am. If someone in my family found out about me (which you’d be hard pressed to find a family member that doesn’t know at this point). I out myself everyday. Me. I do it. I’m aware of my words. I’m aware of my actions and how powerful they can be not only to myself but the world and people around me. I put myself out here to be heard. That is why I started this blog. That is why I am here today. Not to rub it in anyone’s face. Not to be obnoxious. But to let people know this is who I am and what I believe. If you can not handle that, then that’s not my problem. My family loves me for who I am, including this side of me. This person I choose to be and put out there is just me…raw…exposed…beautiful…happy…aware.
I am not ashamed of what I put here, no matter who reads it. I do not back down. I am a voice that is heard and I am so proud of that voice, no matter who hears it. I am respectful of my surrounds, always. I am respectful of the people in my life. But what I put here is a choice. A choice for you to read and try to understand, accept and move forward….or….a choice to stop, walk away and never to return here. The same goes for being a part of my life. I am always respectful and I mind the audience I have at any given moment, but I will never apologize for who I am and what words I put here.
Simple answer is to those that question what I would do if someone found this site that knew me but had yet to know this part me…I don’t care. I care that they try to understand and accept me for who I am and what I stand for. But I don’t care if they have an issue with who I am or what I stand for. If they can’t take the respect and decency to try to understand and accept me for who I am…why would I want to have them in my life in the first place? I do not share this part of myself with everyone I run across, for the reasons that it’s a need to know basis with some people. But if they found out by some chance, I don’t care. If they want to discuss it, I don’t care. I will discuss it with them if they so wish, but I won’t force it upon them.
I will never force anything down anyone’s throat. But I will speak if I will be and want to be heard. I don’t expect anyone to agree with my beliefs or my relationships, but I expect the respect I give out. So, that is my stance on putting myself so openly out here. I put myself openly out to most everyone I meet. And I do realize that my life is one that has that luxury. Some careers and lifestyles don’t have the ability to be as open and honest as I want to be.
But this is why I am here. This is me taking that opportunity to advocate for you…even if it is one word at a time.
Posted on August 13, 2011, in Bisexual, Kink, Personal, Polyamory and tagged Beliefs, Bisexual, Confidence, Individuality, Kink, Online, Open Relationship, Personal Note, Polyamory, Priorities, Real Life, Relationships, Swinging. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.